I feel for you and seems we're pretty alike on a whole bunch here... I took care of my very ill hubby for years and did great through that time, but it left me with a very fearful reality of life.. I just don't handle things well on the onset, but do adapt.. Just as you will if that is what is needed. I lived with age related hearing loss in a few animals... and then one cat that was sudden and that was harder... Like you said, gradual is one thing, something you can understand, so lets just hope and pray that this is temporary for you both, and relax some.. You will see soon enough if there's more you can do.. Just a quick question.... Did he let his ears get a good check up? this just came to mind that once with a temperamental pup, they just got a quick look as it was very difficult. With that exam, she seemed OK... Had to go back in 2 days later and walla, got a better look with a more patient vet and on meds we went... Just a thought.. Some just don't have the patients for aggravated hard to exam pets...