Bulldog adoption in the U.K.

[2BullyMama2]

Thankyou, you must all be sick of my woes by now sorry, but it’s looking like this adoption won’t happen. It’s a shame because other than the charity owner checking out the pictures which was more a formality it was a foregone conclusion.
We’d had a really good chat on the phone particularly about bullies and bull breeds and Freya who I’d told her had elbow dysplasia and food allergies, she asked which vets I’d used so I automatically said vets 4pets.
She’d said she would get back to me after a few days I heard nothing but I do know the small run charities are busy.
After another look on her website I noticed they do checks with your vets too!
It’s been over a week now, I’ve left a voicemail but heard nothing back. I’m hoping I’m worrying over nothing but the whole situation has been completely out of hand and with Vets 4 pets involvement I’m worried it’s going to mess this up for me too just when things were starting to look up.
I have never been in a situation like I have these past months and I don’t know anyone else who has either. All this because my neighbours have a hatred of bull dogs and are spiteful gossips.
Even the police, wardens here and now the housing manager are all disgusted, unfortunately their hands are tied.

Adoption is a long tough road… try to be patient and maybe apply at several places if you can. Your new love will eventually come

 

[Donna-Marie]

Adoption is a long tough road… try to be patient and maybe apply at several places if you can. Your new love will eventually come

I am looking around but it’s finding a dog i truly feel will be the right match for me and me for her/ him. I don’t think it could have been a better match. Her previous owner sadly died, a woman around my age living the same kind of life, having experience with bulldogs and a real love and understanding of their unique personalities health issues and traits. She actually said that i would be perfect for her. The only thing i don’t have is my garden fenced, but i told her how i work round that and she was happy with that and said it wasnt an issue .
Maybe its not meant to be.

 

[2BullyMama2]

I am looking around but it’s finding a dog i truly feel will be the right match for me and me for her/ him. I don’t think it could have been a better match. Her previous owner sadly died, a woman around my age living the same kind of life, having experience with bulldogs and a real love and understanding of their unique personalities health issues and traits. She actually said that i would be perfect for her. The only thing i don’t have is my garden fenced, but i told her how i work round that and she was happy with that and said it wasnt an issue .
Maybe its not meant to be.

As you said, they are all volunteers, work other jobs and rescue/shelters are so overwhelmed…. I know it’s hard, but try to be patient

 

[Donna-Marie]

As you said, they are all volunteers, work other jobs and rescue/shelters are so overwhelmed…. I know it’s hard, but try to be patient

Normally I wouldn’t be so worried it’s just with all that’s gone on. Maybe i should write a script and have it turned into a made for tv film .
I think as well I’m struggling with the whole thing with Freya, I really feel like I’m just throwing her away by considering adopting again. I’m worried what if I find I can’t bond with another dog because of her? That would be cruel to the dog.
At the same time I’m really struggling without her not just for the obvious reasons but it’s also affecting my mental health, I struggle with PTSD and severe social anxiety.
Freya helped me so much with that, she’s very sensitive and special and of course having a dog means having to go outdoors regularly for walks. Anxious and panic or not.
I have some physical health problems too and the walks and playtime helped a lot with that and I dont know how but she helped me with my insomnia too. We have such a close bond closer than with any other dog or pet I’ve had in my 56 years.
I’m sure you all must have experienced that? No matter how much you love and bond with I think there is always one that stands out just that bit more.
Unless it’s me that’s not very nice !

Sorry for always going on but I know very few dog lovers and only one person who loves bulldogs which are my passion

 

[2BullyMama2]

Normally I wouldn’t be so worried it’s just with all that’s gone on. Maybe i should write a script and have it turned into a made for tv film .
I think as well I’m struggling with the whole thing with Freya, I really feel like I’m just throwing her away by considering adopting again. I’m worried what if I find I can’t bond with another dog because of her? That would be cruel to the dog.
At the same time I’m really struggling without her not just for the obvious reasons but it’s also affecting my mental health, I struggle with PTSD and severe social anxiety.
Freya helped me so much with that, she’s very sensitive and special and of course having a dog means having to go outdoors regularly for walks. Anxious and panic or not.
I have some physical health problems too and the walks and playtime helped a lot with that and I dont know how but she helped me with my insomnia too. We have such a close bond closer than with any other dog or pet I’ve had in my 56 years.
I’m sure you all must have experienced that? No matter how much you love and bond with I think there is always one that stands out just that bit more.
Unless it’s me that’s not very nice !

Sorry for always going on but I know very few dog lovers and only one person who loves bulldogs which are my passion

Don’t apologize for venting… it’s all good!

And, yes, we all have that ONE dog that touches you like no other, you never not miss them.

Praying you find a new companion soon.

 

[Lennie. U.K.65]

Stay strong Donna, it will come good just takes time. And yes there is always ONE.

 

[Donna-Marie]

Well I called left a message with the lady from the dog charity.
Suddenly shes gone from I would be perfect for her and wanting preferably a single retired or none working woman middle age plus to saying I’m too old for her. When I tried politely questioning her sudden turnaround she was very vague and the conversation ended with a very polite there are plenty more charities out there just keep on looking ! I’m considering filming a mini soap and casting all the characters involved in this 3 months none stop craziness, it should make great entertainment and will give eastenders a run for its money

 

[2BullyMama2]

Well I called left a message with the lady from the dog charity.
Suddenly shes gone from I would be perfect for her and wanting preferably a single retired or none working woman middle age plus to saying I’m too old for her. When I tried politely questioning her sudden turnaround she was very vague and the conversation ended with a very polite there are plenty more charities out there just keep on looking ! I’m considering filming a mini soap and casting all the characters involved in this 3 months none stop craziness, it should make great entertainment and will give eastenders a run for its money

So frustrating

 

[Donna-Marie]

So frustrating

The plot thickens
Two days ago I received an email from a rescue that I had registered with a few weeks ago. There were no matches at the time and to be honest i forgot about it.

In the email they said they had found a possible match for me . A bull mastiff! Bulldogs of course are by far my favourites and I do love bull breeds though I have stated on applications I’m prepared to consider other breeds.

They told me a little about her and suggested I look at her bio and pictures on their site. She does sound like a lovely dog and she’s a gorgeous girl.
I know very little about the breed so I’ve been doing as much research as possible, it also turns out long before I met my bf she had a bull mastiff and could tell me about her dog and the common traits and pros and cons.

I contacted the charity back and said I’d be happy to consider her. Long story a bit shorter! I’ve had the home check and spoken in more detail, the next step is to arrange a meet and greet. I am a little worried that if things were to go well, will I be able to bond with her, because of Freya. From what I’ve learned they take a little while to observe and warm up to you. Normally that wouldn’t be an issue but if it also takes me longer to warm up to her, that would be a big problem.
I’m starting to question myself, is it too soon am i jumping too quickly, kind of a rebound? It would be cruel to bring her home then feel like she’s just a pet in the house to feed and walk!
I wish I wasn’t such a worrier and procrastinator lol.

 

[Lennie. U.K.65]

An old saying comes to mind Donna.... If in doubt leave it out. BMs are large powerful dogs, notoriously protective, and deffo not for inexperienced dog owners, ( not saying you are inexperienced) ask yourself one ? can I manage that dog? Talk to the Rescue centre, tell them how you feel, their priority will be to the dog, and that's the way it should be. Good luck!

 

[Donna-Marie]

An old saying comes to mind Donna.... If in doubt leave it out. BMs are large powerful dogs, notoriously protective, and deffo not for inexperienced dog owners, ( not saying you are inexperienced) ask yourself one ? can I manage that dog? Talk to the Rescue centre, tell them how you feel, their priority will be to the dog, and that's the way it should be. Good luck!

I was awake all night over it and I was too emotional over Freya.
I think deep down wanting to adopt again was more about replacing Freya. That would be so cruel to Summer (the dog) i couldn’t do that to her.
The handling her neither myself, the rescue and the current owners who of course know her traits personality etc feels that from what they’ve learnt about me so far, the home check and so on thinks i would be able to give her the home environment and care she needs.
The next steps were the meets, first just at her home and then a couple of walking her and taking her to the doggy play park.
But while I could give her all of that i know bonding wouldn’t come naturally, they’re also very intelligent independent think dogs that were bred to observe strangers until they decide they’re not a threat. They take time to warm up to people and then bond and devote themselves to you fiercely.
Add that to the mix and it would be a train wreck waiting to happen.
I’ve realised I’m not ready for another dog just yet.
The rescue lady I spoke to this morning was lovely and really understanding and said whenever I am ready to get back in touch as they would love to rehome the right dog with me.
Right now I feel terrible about messing everyone around, she said not to and was happy I’d thought it through and done the right thing bless her.
Summer sounds like a cracking dog ,I hope she finds the home she deserves.

 

[Donna-Marie]

I was awake all night over it and I was too emotional over Freya.
I think deep down wanting to adopt again was more about replacing Freya. That would be so cruel to Summer (the dog) i couldn’t do that to her.
The handling her neither myself, the rescue and the current owners who of course know her traits personality etc feels that from what they’ve learnt about me so far, the home check and so on thinks i would be able to give her the home environment and care she needs.
The next steps were the meets, first just at her home and then a couple of walking her and taking her to the doggy play park.
But while I could give her all of that i know bonding wouldn’t come naturally, they’re also very intelligent independent thinking dogs that were bred to guard landed gentry property against poachers at night then come home and be a loyal calm gentle dog for the gatekeepers family so they observe strangers until they decide they’re not a threat. They take time to warm up to people and then bond and devote themselves to you fiercely.
Add that to the mix and it would be a train wreck waiting to happen.
I’ve realised I’m not ready for another dog just yet.
The rescue lady I spoke to this morning was lovely and really understanding and said whenever I am ready to get back in touch as they would love to rehome the right dog with me.
Right now I feel terrible about messing everyone around, she said not to and was happy I’d thought it through and done the right thing bless her.
Summer sounds like a cracking dog ,I hope she finds the home she deserves.

 

[2BullyMama2]

I was awake all night over it and I was too emotional over Freya.
I think deep down wanting to adopt again was more about replacing Freya. That would be so cruel to Summer (the dog) i couldn’t do that to her.
The handling her neither myself, the rescue and the current owners who of course know her traits personality etc feels that from what they’ve learnt about me so far, the home check and so on thinks i would be able to give her the home environment and care she needs.
The next steps were the meets, first just at her home and then a couple of walking her and taking her to the doggy play park.
But while I could give her all of that i know bonding wouldn’t come naturally, they’re also very intelligent independent think dogs that were bred to observe strangers until they decide they’re not a threat. They take time to warm up to people and then bond and devote themselves to you fiercely.
Add that to the mix and it would be a train wreck waiting to happen.
I’ve realised I’m not ready for another dog just yet.
The rescue lady I spoke to this morning was lovely and really understanding and said whenever I am ready to get back in touch as they would love to rehome the right dog with me.
Right now I feel terrible about messing everyone around, she said not to and was happy I’d thought it through and done the right thing bless her.
Summer sounds like a cracking dog ,I hope she finds the home she deserves.

You are amazing… you’re going to find a new love, timing is everything.

Have you thought about volunteering at a shelter or rescue? A few hours a day a couple days a week? You could help while possibly finding your next baby?

 

[Donna-Marie]

You are amazing… you’re going to find a new love, timing is everything.

Have you thought about volunteering at a shelter or rescue? A few hours a day a couple days a week? You could help while possibly finding your next baby?

There’s none close enough that i could get myself to. It’s something I’d love to do and I don’t work so I have plenty of time to give.
I looked into fostering too ,there’s a charity working with the dogs trust so when women and children fleeing violence can take their dogs and the dogs trust can place them in a home as the safe homes don’t usually allow pets. To do that driving is a must because the call could come at 4 am and there’d be nobody able to bring the dog to me. I think it’s an amazing charity and very close to my heart, I was in a very similar situation myself and had to leave my cats and snake behind.

 

[Lennie. U.K.65]

I'm a great believer in, when the time is right, the dog will find you Donna. Its happened to me many times over the years. there is a dog out there for you, and they always come looking, when you least expect it, and it may not even be a Bulldog or Bull breed