Heart broken

[bluesteelapd]

Oh Chris, I am so very sorry! As many others have said, we could all share our own personal stories here. My father is an alcoholic, as well as most of the men in my family.
All I can say is Hats Off to your daughter for being strong and realizing, very early on, that something needs to change and having the courage to change it.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family through this very trying time. Thanks for sharing with us so we can support ya'll through this.

Good Luck. ((((HUGS))))

edited to add: my last girlfriend was bi-polar/skitsofrentic/alcoholic/former drug user...oh yeah, I could pick 'em alright.

 

[Tooleysmom]

I think I knew in my gut that this day was coming, but the reality of the situation has hit me hard. Surprisingly, my daughter is calm, has a list of things that need to be done, and is checking things off the list.

This reminded me - when I went to see our counsellor after I had ended the relationship to let him know we would not be coming anymore I mentioned that I felt surprisingly calm. He explained that I had already done all of my grieving while in the last years of the relationship. So it is not really surprising, just an indication of the deep sadness and pain your daughter has already been through before making her decision. Hugs.

 

[ChrisRN]

Thanks to all of you. I have quit crying. Now that the emotion is out of the situation, I know she made the right decision. Her husband has placed the blame for this solely on her--typical of his behavior over the years. Thinking back over the years, and all the crap we put up with, I can appreciate the calm with which she made this decision and the resolve to eliminate the constant drama that her son was witnessing. I think it was causing him stress. As Flippy said in daycare a while ago, "f*** this!" My sentiments exactly! You guys are awesome and I am so grateful I found all of you!

 

[kazzy220]

I am so sorry ... growing up my step-dad was an alcoholic. He's been sober for a few years now but is described by his doctor as a cyclical alcoholic and that it will continue to go round in circles. I guess this time the circle is a little bigger than normal, but we are always prepared for him to fall off the wagon at some point. Not sure if that is being prepared, or not being fair to him!! Anyway, as a child growing up with it I can honestly say it's horrible. So the fact that the four year old has been taken out of this situation and atmosphere can ONLY be a good thing!

But hugs to you and your daughter for having to go through this emotional heart break!!

 

[ChrisRN]

As you can all imagine, I have been in very frequent contact with my daughter. I am so proud of the way she is handling all of this. He has posted on his Facebook page things which make it appear she ran off and left him and their son! She and Flip are doing great, and have established wonderful routines with the structure he never had in his short little life. She hasn't said anything negative about him to Flip--an amazing feat! The more I hear, the more I am glad this has happened. I just wish I were there for her to lean on.

 

[JAKEISGREAT]

As you can all imagine, I have been in very frequent contact with my daughter. I am so proud of the way she is handling all of this. He has posted on his Facebook page things which make it appear she ran off and left him and their son! She and Flip are doing great, and have established wonderful routines with the structure he never had in his short little life. She hasn't said anything negative about him to Flip--an amazing feat! The more I hear, the more I am glad this has happened. I just wish I were there for her to lean on.

Chris...she can feel the heart string between you and her..no matter where she is. You are there for her..and she knows it. THAT will be her guiding strength.

 

[Ftse 100]

Chris she knows you are there for her even not standing next to her in person. good on your daughter to change the life she and your grandson had with her ex, she seems to have learnt well from you. Hugs

 

[fosteroni]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[izstigspunks]

Big hugs to you. Change is always scary, but this one sounds like its really needed. And how brave if your daughter. She's lucky to have gotten so much strength from her parents.


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