Hi carol. Your welcome. I am sorry for the loss of your husband, there really are no words that you can say to someone to comfort them or make the pain of losing someone you love go away. The only thing that will heal your pain is time. Time to feel your grief, that and hugs from your friends and loved ones, even if they are over the Internet , and an ear to listen to. Hopefully in time, your grief will be replaced with the good memories and times you shared with your husband, and some of your tears will be replaced with a smile when you think of him. You will always miss him, and think about him many times, you can never forget a loved one, and the hole is always there, but it does get better. I lost my son 28 years ago, and I still cry sometimes when I think about him, especially on his birthday, it never goes away, but it does get easier and better with time. I hope you find comfort, in your family, your son, and your pets.