Sorry to hear about your back problems. The stress can only make it worse. If there was a place near you, that they could afford,maybe you could talk them into it,if they have no other children. I have been there,and my parents lived in Md. Quite a trip! There comes a point(so difficult) where you and wife have to become the parents to the parents. It is soooo hard. I have been there. Feel sorry for you and your wife. Wish I could do something to help-but at least hope and pray for you. Also hoping your back feels better-I KNOW about that ,too. (see-I am all knowing!You could say I have a crystal ball-only one!,Ha!ha! Hope the bullies are okay! Luv ya,man!