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    Quote Originally Posted by NigelsMom View Post
    I just have two words for you - - - - FORGIVE YOURSELF!

    Bella loves you!
    Thank you… ((HUGS))

    "What we once enjoyed and deeply loved, we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us." Helen Keller
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    Bless your hear. You and your vet do not have control over life, so don't feel guilty. You did what you thought was best for everyone at the time. Hang in there and chin up.

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    Aww, but Tracey it's in no way your fault You didn't know what would happen. I had no idea it was a risk spaying a dog while on heat... I remember our vet said Joey was about to go into heat when she got spayed, but he didn't mention anything about it being a danger. We didn't know her cycle cos we had just adopted her. I have made SO many mistakes with my bulldogs, SO many. I'm so thankful for you and all the wonderful people on EBN that shares stories and knowledge to everyone. Many hugs to you<3
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    It wasn't your fault Trace, I'm right there with you as tomorrow it will be exactly 2 years since our Mickey went to the bridge, I blame myself every day. Thanks for posting this and Bella and Mickey are looking down right now with a huge smiles knowing we loved them.

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    I am so sorry but do try not to be so hard on yourself...it's a wonderful tribute to Bella's life that you are educating others!

    I'm not sure if you know but I lost my first bulldog in a heat related death. I was SO mad at myself but, like you, I've tried to turn that anger into something good by warning others how quickly things can happen, despite our BEST intentions!


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    Tracey, I know your heart is so heavy with the anniversary of Bella’s passing upon us. You need to know though, once and for all, that herdeath was not your fault. You did everything you thought you should do for her,doing the best you could. Do not beat yourself up for that b/c there’s no need.You’re a compassionate human being but right now you need to practice some compassionupon yourself. Bella knows how much youloved her and that you did the best for her.




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    Thanks guys… I knew that if I opened up my heart on here, that you guys would understand. And I LOVE YOU all for it!!!

    "What we once enjoyed and deeply loved, we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us." Helen Keller
    RIP Wellie, Bella, Winston & Roxie

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    Tracey, this is so not your fault. Like Lynn says, many dogs get spayed right before during and right after heat. But their are vets that prefer to do thing in between for the less risk factor. You should be able to depend on your vet for making decisions regarding your pet, that's what they are there for!


    I'm truly sorry Bella was lost and it may or may not have changed things, but I don't want to hear you place blame on yourself for one more second. I'm glad you told us how you felt so we could let you know how incredibly wrong you are. Forgive yourself, for Bella she wouldn't want you to feel this way surely more than we don't.


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    Tracey it was not your fault, I believe that us humans always try to blame ourselves when something goes wrong and we go through but what if's I have this same problem with my Mother I blame myself that she is no longer here for turning the life support of and I go through this emotion every year on the anniversary of her death and when I am feeling down even thou I know she would not have lived.


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    @ddnene like everyone here, you need to be kind to yourself and forgive yourself, it is not your fault at all, IF you had known the outcome you would not have done it, IF you had known the risks you would not have done it, actually untill I read this post I had no idea that spaying on heat had more risks. So thank you.
    There is no doubt that you loved Bella and all your babies.
    Thinking of you and lots of hugs for the anniversary of Beautiful Bella x
    I have found that when you are deeply troubled, there are things you get from the devoted companionship of a dog that you can get from no other source

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    Tracey @ddnene since reading this thread this morning I was thinking back and I am positive I had my Pug Tei-Arnna spayed when she came into heat too I too did not know that is was a risk.

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    There are so many things I wouldn't do now since being on EBN...you love and learn...don't beat yourself up...you've been through enough.

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