pretty shaken up, advice needed

Bmakj

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so some of you know, we had an acquaintance session at local shelter with Sunny, a Bulldog with a little pitty mixed in (female, 50 lbs, ripped/buff/cut physiqye) and Victoria (3 yr old spayed, 75 lbs), went very well, we brought her home two nights later.

Everything had been going pretty well until today. Apologies for length, but looking for real insights.

Generally, things have been going well. some issue with one a**hole cat (cat has started with her, hissing, growling, swatting, so now Sunny reacts aggressively to cat, but cat runs up and away), rest of cats, no issues, Sunny pretty much ignores them. Victoria, also displayed some attention hogging behaviour at first (ie muscling in between when someone in family would give sunny attention, but that was it, no actual hostility).

I am hand feeding sunny, working (and making pretty good progress I think) on come, sit, and a little stay. Generally I have been putting victoria's food bowl down in kitchen and putting gate up, and feeding sunny in next room, but it is pretty open floor plan, so victoria can hear us (thinking this might be a mistake).

When I give treats, generally to both, sitting next to each other, doling out equally (trying to train Sunny to catch them tossed like Victoria does, generally just hitting her in the face with them).

Each has a separate crate, in same room. At night, sunny is in her crate, Victoria is generally loose, same as when we go out. There were issues with sunny barking at cats while in her crate, so we started covering with a blanket, eliminated most of it, a few barks each night since, think the one a**hole cat might be making noises, or one of them might be on top (we are in bed).

I take them both out in back yard several times a day (have only walked sunny around block twice so far, alone), they have been playing, inside and out, pretty well together, rough, but running at each other, wrestling, jumping on each other, and the past week or so, they have been getting ears, jowls, feet/forelegs in each others mouths, but no real pressure.

The past couple of nights, when they play inside, I noticed a couple of times victoria would get a little too rough, or hold Sunny's head in her wide hippo mouth a little long, and I would verbally tell her "off", and if she did not back off, hit her ecollar button, and this would back her off (got sunny's ecollar a week ago, and remote is set up for 2 dogs now).

This morning, I was working, they were playing in next room, and it turned nasty, snarling (as opposed to growling like they have done when playing tug o war with a rope), and actually biting. I hit both their buttons alternating (not certain if I can hit both at once), did not seem to affect them (although I suppose it could have caused one to stop and the other then took advantage, all happened very fast). So I waded in, grabbed both collars, at this point sunny had victoria's jowl. I could not pull them apart, in fact victoria's collar released I was pulling so hard. I got my daughter (21 yo) very reluctantly to grab sunny by the collar while I had Victoria around the shoulders, got them separated, and she got Sunny into her crate (no aggression by either dog towards my daughter or myself, no one else home)

Victoria is currently at the vet, nothing horrific. But they are going to sedate, as there is one deep enough on her leg that they want to clean out well and close, they will clean the rest of the cuts (jowl, paws). Sunny seems to have only some superficial cuts/scratches on face/forelegs, she stayed home (could not take them together obviously), she is now much like she was when we first brought her home, skittish/shy.

Ideas on bringing them back together again? WE have a rather smallish house with a pretty much open floor plan other than bedrooms. We were supposed to go on week long road trip starting in a littler over a week (moving both daughters into college, one on a Thur, one on a Tuesday, 4 hours away from each other, each 9-10 hours from home), both dogs would have to be in same car for ride home (could separate on way down and between the two schools)

post Vet note: we are home, Victoria is good, a few stiches, a little stoned, and having issues with cone. I think they gave us one too big based solely on weight, not realizing bulldogs have a different build, and can have a smaller one than a weight chart might indicate. She keeps catching it on corners and doorways, and on the front steps when we came in.
 
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You need to take them on walks together.. that is how the “pack”. Two humans and both dogs.

Get a soft cone for her before you get shin bruises
 
When I got Jake, he was 2.5 y/o and Nyala about 4. It took about 2-3 months of butt heading. Took only the side eye staring moment and whammmm. Nyala was the boss (still 🤷🏼‍♀️). But yes, like Christine said walk them together every morning if possible for a good 30 mins minimum. The photos attached is basically what I bought. A duo split leash and the short hand leash (orange photo). The duo leash, Nyala would be about 1/2 her body length ahead of Jake’s head. If you notice the duo is adjustable. The short hand lead is so neither be too far in front me. If something happened, easier to grab and all dogs should never be on long leashes. Well that my opinion. Both walked to my left along the street side so non stops to smell anyone’s grass. Nyala was the walker of an hour long and Jake never walked cause he was on an acreage in runs. He would be let loose daily to run free. Why I put Nyala as the leader so she can train Jake. But yes, definitely it’s all about walking and training.


Found the duo I had….its the green one and also has handles for a quick grab. Took a photo of the brand. Very solid! And yes small orange hand leash.
 

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update, we are heartbroken.

we kept the dogs pretty much separate (on advice from vet, so as not to have issues with Victoria's stitches) until our trip (we left on the 13th). We decided it was best all around to board Sunny for the trip, not optimal for her, but best overall decision. we were expecting to be gone 8 days.

Sunny did OK at kennel according to owner, very skittish, not wanting to leave her run (they had indoor and outdoor access in each run). Other unrelated family issues dictated and early return home (late on the 16th), and I picked Sunny up early afternoon on the 16th (Sunday). (Re)introduced dogs on leashes in backyard, Victoria was very much wanting to sniff Sunny's nethers, Sunny was a little skittish, but seemed OK. feed separately (hand feeding Sunny in backyard while working on sit, stay, come), took them for a walk together with no issues whatsoever. Brought both inside, things seemed OK. no real play like before between dogs, but nothing really. thought we were headed in right direction (I should know better, this is always when disaster strikes us).

Later, lounging about watching some TV, occasionally giving dogs treats, Sunday around 8-9 PM. car crash on TV, seems to upset Sunny, she starts to growl at TV, we tell her no, I am picking up e-collar remote, and within seconds, dogs (mostly Sunny I think, this time it all unfolded right in front of both my wife and I) are at it, biting, barking, snarling, snapping. I have to wade in, bust Sunny's collar off, and so I bear hug her around shoulders. I am bitten during this on hand (palm and back of hand, she took a while to let go). We get Victoria in her crate (she is unhurt, a few minor scratches is all), my daughter gets a leash around Sunny, and into her crate (left leash on, it was retractable).

My wife takes me to Emergency Room, 9 stitches in hand (3 on back, 3 + 2 + 1 on palm). Very swollen. X-rays are negative thankfully (hand is slowly loosening up, I could type and use computer today without much issue

Monday late morning, my son and I ( he was at our house because of completely human related issue that caused us to come home early) carry entire crate with Sunny in it to back of our SUV, and we go back to shelter to surrender Sunny back to them. As we walk in my wife and I are in tears. We really had no choice. Something(s) seems to set Sunny off into "combat" mode with other animals (I think me being bitten was just because I was working on controlling her), and we simply cannot risk it, and our home cannot accommodate multiple animals that have to be kept separate.

We are devastated. animals are all acting a little strange, as it has been a crazy 10 days. My daughters leaving for school (one taking her cat with her), The rest of us going away (victoria of course came with us), then were back, then Sunny comes back, then the incident, then Sunny leaves.

Praying that Sunny is able to find a home. I think in a single animal environment, with solid control when around other animals away from the home, she could be a good pet. She is normally sweet, affectionate, and actually shy/skittish. All her aggression when something sets her off is directed to other animals, none to people.
 
The issue with dogs in shelters, these employees basically have no clue what happened to these dogs and the real reason why they’re being surrendered. Sadly most come with baggage’s. If a dog was abused, the owner or person that surrenders the dog won’t dare mention she/he/child abused the dog. They’ll end up in jail if caught. Some are raised in perfect homes and one day something just clicks in their heads and turns to a dangerous pet. That being said, yes you will definitely have fantastic dogs from shelters. It’s a hit or miss. You don’t try, you won’t know. You wouldn’t be the first member in here that brought back their dogs to the shelter.
 
update, we are heartbroken.

we kept the dogs pretty much separate (on advice from vet, so as not to have issues with Victoria's stitches) until our trip (we left on the 13th). We decided it was best all around to board Sunny for the trip, not optimal for her, but best overall decision. we were expecting to be gone 8 days.

Sunny did OK at kennel according to owner, very skittish, not wanting to leave her run (they had indoor and outdoor access in each run). Other unrelated family issues dictated and early return home (late on the 16th), and I picked Sunny up early afternoon on the 16th (Sunday). (Re)introduced dogs on leashes in backyard, Victoria was very much wanting to sniff Sunny's nethers, Sunny was a little skittish, but seemed OK. feed separately (hand feeding Sunny in backyard while working on sit, stay, come), took them for a walk together with no issues whatsoever. Brought both inside, things seemed OK. no real play like before between dogs, but nothing really. thought we were headed in right direction (I should know better, this is always when disaster strikes us).

Later, lounging about watching some TV, occasionally giving dogs treats, Sunday around 8-9 PM. car crash on TV, seems to upset Sunny, she starts to growl at TV, we tell her no, I am picking up e-collar remote, and within seconds, dogs (mostly Sunny I think, this time it all unfolded right in front of both my wife and I) are at it, biting, barking, snarling, snapping. I have to wade in, bust Sunny's collar off, and so I bear hug her around shoulders. I am bitten during this on hand (palm and back of hand, she took a while to let go). We get Victoria in her crate (she is unhurt, a few minor scratches is all), my daughter gets a leash around Sunny, and into her crate (left leash on, it was retractable).

My wife takes me to Emergency Room, 9 stitches in hand (3 on back, 3 + 2 + 1 on palm). Very swollen. X-rays are negative thankfully (hand is slowly loosening up, I could type and use computer today without much issue

Monday late morning, my son and I ( he was at our house because of completely human related issue that caused us to come home early) carry entire crate with Sunny in it to back of our SUV, and we go back to shelter to surrender Sunny back to them. As we walk in my wife and I are in tears. We really had no choice. Something(s) seems to set Sunny off into "combat" mode with other animals (I think me being bitten was just because I was working on controlling her), and we simply cannot risk it, and our home cannot accommodate multiple animals that have to be kept separate.

We are devastated. animals are all acting a little strange, as it has been a crazy 10 days. My daughters leaving for school (one taking her cat with her), The rest of us going away (victoria of course came with us), then were back, then Sunny comes back, then the incident, then Sunny leaves.

Praying that Sunny is able to find a home. I think in a single animal environment, with solid control when around other animals away from the home, she could be a good pet. She is normally sweet, affectionate, and actually shy/skittish. All her aggression when something sets her off is directed to other animals, none to people.
So sorry this all happened… healing prayers for you and prayers Sunny find a new family 🙏🏻🙏🏻
 
Don't beat yourself up. Years ago, we had a 4 year old rescue greyhound and was given an 8 week old American bulldog. Everything was great until the AB turned 2 and she decided she wanted to be alpha. I have no idea what triggered the first fight, but it was horrendous. Side tables turned over, etc., and I was at home by myself. Blood everywhere, with, as you can imagine, the greyhound getting the worst of it. I finally managed to get a child's gate between them and backed the greyhound down the hallway to her crate. That was the first of several ER visits. We knew there would be a time when separating would fail and our sweet greyhound would pay the price. It broke our hearts but we returned the greyhound and she found a fantastic home. We are still in touch with her adopters 15 years after her death! We kept the AB as we did not want her to fall into the wrong hands. She was a great dog, very intelligent but she could never be around other females. Sometimes, it just doesn't work out but I will never have two females again. They don't give up and can fight to the death if the situation is really bad. Hopefully Sunny will find a single dog home and she will thrive.🙏
 

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