Well got the ears cleaned yesterday. Squirted some solution in one ear, rubbed until she ran away. Repeat. Then she hid in her crate so I went in and wiped out the excess with cotton balls.
Today I got the nails done! I held her in my lap, even when she squirmed and tried to get away. I was able to get the front two paws myself, had to get the hubby's help to hold he still for the back two.
I might try and take her in somewhere to get her nails done, but at least now I know I can do it.