i have this problem at times also.. i can tell by how then look and act if a fight will happen and i immediately correct them.. i can't pet one without the other getting upset and want to fight.. so i do like was mentioned and usually will give one extra attention if we are alone together and vise versa.. it works out great but i understand it would be nice if i could sit and pamper all of them at once.. they can all run and play and do when i am around but if i have to have someone stay at my house and watch them i leave instructions not to have to two younger ones out with the older one.. its usually one of my sisters and she will ask why when i have them out together.. i tried explaining that "I" can let them because i can tell by how they act , look, and even walk if the bulling will start and if it is stopped before it even begins then there isn't any problems.. they can't tell when something is about to happen until its to late and fight is on.. i think my dogs know i am the alfa.. good luck i hope you find a way to make it work..
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@minibull Yes, the neutering calmed Jackson down as well after a few months, he trusts and listens to me better so that I do not need to have him on a leash when they are around, he will back down with a snap of a finger now. Consistency is important, keep at it & good luck!
Another situation to keep in mind with these dogs: Jackson also has struggled with allergies and skin conditions his entire life, we are one month into a new treatment plan (fish oil, allergy meds & royal canin food) and he has been a much happier dog! I've learned that aggression comes from frustration sometimes and in his case, it was physical frustration (always itching, eyes watering, feet licking, yeast growing everywhere!) Since we've corrected his physical pain or frustration, he's been much easier to mold into a wonderful dog! Izzy on the other hand is just an old girl who doesn't like dogs bigger than her!
I am currently experiencing this problem with Curly and our newest addition. Curly is the youngest of our three dogs and when our 4th came into the picture, curly suddenly became completely aggressive towards the new pup, to a fight that result in the pups broken arm. There were several other things going on in my household when all heck broke out (I was traveling so it caused imbalance of ranks / our cat, curly's closest friend was very sick , etc) so it's been hard to pinpoint Curlys sudden change.
However, I think It seems to be jealously and change of energy sets curly off. The other day curly was in our fenced in yard and Jawnie (the pup) was outside of our yard. A woman came up to Jawnie to pet him and Curly ran up to the fence with a look of death in his eyes and would not take his eyes off Jawnie. I tried to snap curly out of it but Curly was definitely did not like that Jawnie was getting attention. The woman asked if she could pet curly to make him feel better (she I guess saw the jealousy too) and I told her no because that would just encourage Curlys behavior. Fortunately she got it. But now that I kind of see what sets curly off I can start having the trainer work with him on this.
Anyhow, we have not re-integrated Jawnie back with the pack yet because he is still healing from the broken arm but when we do our plan is quite extreme in order to re-integrate them (involves me moving to my parents with my other 2 dogs while my husband keeps curly and only introducing them again on neutral grounds).
If reintegration isn't possible, we are planning to rehome our pup, which does make us a bit sad but in the long run it is in the best interest of Jawnie's well being physically and psychologically... If you do need to rehome just know that you are doing what is right for the well being of your bully. Good luck with everything!
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We decided to see a behaviorist at Tufts University vet clinic and they essentially told us it could take years to get them back to being ok with one another and that it was happening because of a 'sibling rivalry' scenario where both dogs wanted to be the pack leader. What she told us is that we had to figure out who would make the better leader and treat that dog as the leader of the two while still maintaining that the humans were the ultimate pack leaders. She recommended choosing the female dog because the male had a lot of anxiety and wasn't stable mentally at the time. Then, we were directed to only give them attention, food, toys, etc. if they first followed a command (I believe this is the same thing you have been directed to do). This seemed only to help when they weren't together, but once they saw each other they couldn't be broken up.
What ultimately helped us get over the hump was by following the routine, individually, of making the dog follow a command before rewarding with a treat, attention, etc. and very very very slowly reintroducing them to each other. I started by keeping one dog crated with the other one on leash, walking the leashed dog near the crate, making her sit (which is where the commands came into play), give me her full attention, and then feeding her treats. I did this over and over and over again and reversed the roles so each dog had turns getting treats. The treat in my hand would distract both dogs enough that neither would growl and both would pay attention to me. It took about a month of this before I could separate them by a baby gate and do the same routine. After about another month behind a baby gate with that routine, i began leashing one dog safely at one end of the room, leashing the other and leading it very very slowly, feeding treats along the way, towards the other dog. I would try to keep both dogs eyes on me and on the prize (treat). I followed this routine for about two months and eventually I was able to, very carefully and with harnesses that had handles, do this same thing but without the leashes. We luckily had safe spots to leash each dog while we were home so they could be in the same room and have to deal with the presence of the other. For a long time we would hear growls from each if they even looked at each other wrong. It seriously took about 8 months all together to get them in the same room, ok with each other, sitting on separate beds, and not spontaneously fighting.
After I was able to get them into the same room together with no growling or fighting I was able to let them feel out their own boundaries - this took a lot of dedication and very vigilant watching of their body language. I would allow them to sit near each other, but if either one got tense, I would command one or the other to go back to their own spot. Very slowly they re-learned that the other was not going to just snap and regained trust in one another enough that they began to snuggle, clean each other, and eat together again. It took about a year to get them to that point.
It's been almost another year now and we still cannot give the female direct attention if the male is too close nearby (the same room is ok, but within 10 feet or so she gets crazy). It's the exact scenario you described where it happens when you're giving the dog attention and she sees the other dog and gets crazy. Neither dog is allowed on the sofa unless specifically directed and when we give direct attention we make sure her face is facing us and if it isn't we immediately stop giving her attention. Usually what happens now is she re-directs her attention so everything is ok. Honestly, I don't think this will ever change, but because we have learned her body language we are able to stop any fights from happening before the first growl. It just takes lots of time and a lot of persistence to get to this point.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope you are able to find a home for your pup or able to find a way for them to live harmoniously. It's not easy at all and my heart really goes out to you.