He's still a puppy and I'm no expert at all. I've just had 3 bulldogs and they really do t get that calm zen bulldog thing until about three. Instead of keeping him tied up inside is there any way to contain him to an area? Maybe with a playpen or with a gate? A tired bulldog is a happy bulldog so if he can get some exercise during the day you will be amazed how well behaved he will be. I know how hot it gets in San Diego so please don't leave him outside for long periods of time, bulldogs just can't handle it.
I think if you can get your wife involved in being the alpha so,that once you deploy she can still be the boss, it would be the best thing.
Good do luck, I am sure more people will be along shortly with more advice.
i appreciate your service and your love for your dog!!!!