cali~jenn
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Oh my gosh, late to this one. You have gotten great advice already, lets see what I can add. He is at that teenager phase where he wants to move up in the pack. I have had great success with hand feeding my miila. The situations weren't the same at all, she was fighting with the other 2 pups but I would think your kids r her pack just like a pup would be. Have your 2 older kids help in hand feeding once you have gotten it down well yourself so he nows they r in fact his leader as well. Allow the to quietly watch you hand feed so they learn the right commands etc from you. (My 4 year old can feed and give commands and they listen almost as well as if it was me) to start with miila I made her sit/stay while I filled her bowl and set it a foot or so in front of her. She drooled and shakes like crazy but ignore that. Take your time and grab a handful of food from the bowl having him practice his sit, down, high five etc. must do at least 1 trick before getting to eat the food out of your hand. Take your time in between handfuls, basically setting in that you decide when and if he eats. With mii it took a little while before I saw huge progress and then loosened up some. Once you get to that point I would allow your kids to join in and help, calmly. I hope this helps somehow, I know how disheartening it is when you fear your baby could hurt your kids. Also a behaviorist is a great idea as well. Not a trainer, a behaviorist. They are skilled in this type of thing.