How old is lady? the laying on the pad with a pee spot behind her where you said it looked like she was too lazy to get up, would concern me that maybe she has a UTI or something??? but also sounds to me like she has too much freedom too fast ... room to roam is earned. my female gave me a run for my money around the time of her first heat cycle she was trying to assert her dominance and claim everything as hers by peeing (marking) it. she was a strong willed young girl but found that having blankets and toys was way better then having everything taken away from her, the better she acted and the less dominance she tried to assert was rewarded with things like blankets toy and freedoms to have more space etc. not sure if what you are going through is the same thing but hopefully it might help to know at least that you're not alone in your situation and things can get better.
You need to make sure to set boundaries and limitations and then consistency and follow through are key when it comes to training our bulldog babies. It's all worth it in the end I promise