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    Our boxer Lady is 11.5. Her health has begun to decline quickly. After multiple tests, xrays, blood work they have ruled out spreading to the chest area of her mammory tumor and kidney failure. Her rear end has literally given out on her and she is struggling just to get up and walk. She took a fall down our deck steps last Fri and since then she has barely been able to get around. The ER vet gave her some pain meds and said to watch her for a few days. My regular vet said to give it a week and if she is still not able to get around then I needed to make a decision on her quality of life. My heart is broken. I have had her since she was 8 weeks old and I cannot even begin to express my love for her. I keep looking into her big eyes and wondering if she is hurting and if keeping her around is unfair to her. But I'm not able to make the final decision. I keep praying that she improves but she seems to be getting worse and not better even on the pain meds. I am struggling with the decision of putting her down too soon if it is just an injury that needs to heal or if the decline in health and her ability to even get around will continue to get worse. I know I need to wait a few days but watching her stumble, fall and just lay there is breaking my heart. I know there are probably others out there that have dealth with this same decision and I wondered on your thoughts or advice. Thanks for listening.

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    Oh I'm so very sorry. Yes..unfortunately we have been in this horrible place too many times over our 38 years of marriage. It is absolutely the hardest thing we've EVER had to do...and it NEVER gets easier. Just last year we lost 2 of the best dogs ever. The pain is still there and when I read your post..I felt like I was back there..making that decision all over again. What you have to focus on is how much you love her..how much she's given to you and this is actually a way to pay her back for all those years together. I just believe we owe our critters as pain free existence as possible. Her quality of life is what you should come to term with. There are really no words that I can pass on to you to ease what you have before you. It's the hardest part of loving an animal and living up to their love for you. Try to keep her pain free and use these last days together to love her..and prepare to let her go. In time you will look back on all the joy she gave you and your heart won't feel so heavy. I'm so sorry...I also want to add..this..I believe..is one of the biggest of life's lessons we learn from our animals. They teach us many..many things..and while by far the very hardest...it's another one.
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    @JAKEISGREAT said it well. I can't offer advice just pass along a .

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    Oh dear, I too am so very sorry for the position you are in. I know of your pain. I wish I could reach out and give you a great big hug. My eyes fill with tears. My mom and dad are going through the exact same thing at this moment. You too will know when the time is right. So sorry dear.

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    I'm so sorry!

    @JAKEISGREAT your comment is so true, it made me cry
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    Quote Originally Posted by Luvin My Bullie View Post
    I'm so sorry! @JAKEISGREAT your comment is so true, it made me cry
    Writing it made me cry too..and brought back all those sweet critters we have sent to the bridge. @momtodozer...we are all in this together. @Sherry is correct..you will know.

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    So sorry for you and I'm like everyone in that you will know when it is time.
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    I am sorry you are going through this. All you can do is keep her as comfortable as possible and spend as much time with her as you can. *hugs*

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    No advice here either. I do agree with @JAKEISGREAT and you will know in your heart when the time has come. The fact that you are asking tells me your gut is kicking in. I am so sorry. So unfair for us to deal with this but I am thankful that at least we are able to help our babies to the bridge when they are hurting. I really wish we could do the same with our loved ones when necessary.

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    I am so sad to read about your Boxer Baby Lady.

    I too had to make that same decision in Feb of this year with my Boxer Dozer. He was only 2 years old and suddenly developed multiple cancers...different types and ALL over his body. I tried with everything I had and everything I could to "save" him..I was being selfish too because I didn't want to let him go. My Bullies gave me strength and love during that time and everyday still. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him and miss him terribly. I am crying as I sit here and type this , wishing I could tell you something more comforting and positive.

    The only advice I can give is to follow your heart...give her all the love and attention you can.
    My heart truly breaks for you.

    We will see them again at the Rainbow Bridge, they will be happy and healthy waiting there for us.

    Take care..sending love and prayers your way.

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    I feel for you I believe Lady will help you to make this difficult choice as much as I know that Shep helped me when his time came.
    I'm sorry for you and send you both a big Thinking of you both

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    You will know when it is time... My sons dog was so old and not able to stand, see or mentally function. I had to take her to the vet to be put down cause he couldn't handle the grief and drive. He did give her a long and tearful hug goodbye and told her she was a great dog.

    Wilson & BabyGirl

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