Great post & so true in many cases, young men being busy but basically around & certainly, available if REALLY needed.
What is applicable here is something different and going on all over and increasingly, more often. It is the almost and
often, total lack of interest or regard of parents, ill, widowed & isolated needing HELP not just attention (altho that would
be nice too). Who else should you look to in times of need but family and more specifically, grown children? Why these
adult children care so little for us is anyone's guess but they don't...and feel (seemingly) no shame or guilt.
My husband died almost 4 years ago, I was caring for my Mother, 2 years living in our home at that time & entering latter
stages of Alzheimer's, then I cared for her another 2 years. I have a brother & 2 sisters, all younger than me. I helped Mother bring them up (Dad was an alcoholic & undependable) taking care of all their needs as 2nd Mom from 5th grade on then putting off college to help with their school needs with my salary too. Never made it to college as life took a different path but wanted to go all my life...dream deferred, 1st of many.
Hubby died & everything changed, I was disabled, Mom on SS (lost my health ins. too) & ultimately, my home. Not ONE of them showed up to help me move our Mother & myself, 4 hrs away, to my home as we'd moved to E. Texas for Hubby's job just 10 mo's early. Not ONE took Mother off my hands, even for a weekend, as I made arrangements, etc & dealt with his sudden, unexpected death. Not one called our Son to talk to him about his Dad's death or offer condolences...Why?...Who knows?...no fights had happened, no troubles between us, etc. Just didn't and still don't, give a damn...selfish, shallow, empty people only about themselves & their needs. They all go to church & quote the Bible, they'd all lived at my house during times of their need, welcomed, fed & sheltered but nothing from them for their Mother or myself & Son in our need.
There are no answers for these things other than the times we are living in, I feel sorrow that Lynn, Annie & others are experiencing these things too. Like myself & as Annie says, you don't see yourself ending up this way but here we are and all we can do is make the best of it (and we do). But, every now & then, as Lynn says, everything breaks down including yourself and your coping systems break down too. Then, our realities of just how alone we are & needing much more than what we have, what we make do with, get by on & physically, mentally & financially are unable to do by ourselves.
The crap hits the fan...once again.