wow! kelly, i just read this thread. i always forget to read the posts in not bulldog talk.
i will pray for you and your son. i can't imagine how hard it is to see someone with so much potential careen down the worst path and for you to be powerless to stop them. I know it breaks your heart and that makes me sad for you. you are doing the right thing by cutting him off. you just need to stay strong. i can't really give you advice, but i can always listen!
my dad and my half sister are both addicts. my dad was a raging alcoholic for years, he also smoked marijuana and did coke. he sobered up in '85, two years after he "mail ordered" my mom from the philippines. i was born in '86 and he stayed sober until '98. he started drinking again, switching out coffee in the morning for a natural ice. then it was full blown drinking, smoking pot, opium, traveling to juarez to buy coke, heroin, and pills, along with visiting mexican hookers. my dad just got worse and worse and worse. i would watch him cook and shoot up, cut lines, and vomit all over the house from being so drunk. he'd beat the hell out of my mom while i listened or watched from the next room. His rock bottom was in '99 when he blew his brains out in front of my sister who was renting a house across the street from us. After seeing that, my sister became an alcoholic and is addicted to coke and heroin and has dabbled with meth. she has hepatitis c now, but that still isn't her rock bottom. By God's grace my half brother and I aren't addicts, but I think that would be different if i was in front of my dad when he chose to die.
I really hope for your peace and your son's health that he can come out of this. it may take incarceration, and considering the nature of addiction, i'm hoping he steals something big enough to get himself committed. he'll be forced to get clean and recover and hopefully find the solace he was seeking in drugs, in God instead. He is still so young and he is better than this!
What about "intervention"? i know you said he is super smart, so i don't know if he could be tricked into doing a documentary about addiction, but i guess it would be worth a shot. and a&e can pay for treatment.
Well, i love you, along with the rest of your family here. We'll always be here for you, sending love and prayers your way!