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Bazza

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[MENTION=10754]raetate[/MENTION] it not always easy, I try and look at all the good things in life and forget about the rotten people, it is their problem not you, hope you are feeling better soon, I have been abit down lately but have a beautiful family and the funnest dog and lucky to have my health back. Hope you feel yourself soon.
 
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I am trying so hard to find the happy and try and be strong. Yes I am so happy Hercules is feeling better but at the same time I'm so scared now to not watch him. And for the past 2 months I've been taking care of him by myself because my boyfriend has been on Detachment for the navy and he just got back but it seems like I'm still by myself doing things on my own. I don't know if it's because it's getting back adjusted but it's still frustrating.


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I am trying so hard to find the happy and try and be strong. Yes I am so happy Hercules is feeling better but at the same time I'm so scared now to not watch him. And for the past 2 months I've been taking care of him by myself because my boyfriend has been on Detachment for the navy and he just got back but it seems like I'm still by myself doing things on my own. I don't know if it's because it's getting back adjusted but it's still frustrating.


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My hubby is retired from the Army, and he did 4 tours of Iraq… I understand your frustrations, and it does take time for them to get used to being back home. One day at a time… ;)
 

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Sometimes you need to cry. Just let it out. A good cry works wonders.

Eff work - it is completely rare to love what you do. One time someone told me that all employees are disposable. I replied all companies are disposable.

My husband is Active Duty (army) and before this current assignment he was barely home. When he would come home he would be too tired to do anything to help me around the house.

And forget about even seeing him in the house when he came back from Iraq and Afghanistan. He was never home. He also lost a few soldiers on his clock and he was in charge of the funerals in said location. I knew a bit about it but it took one drunk night for him to go into details. At that point I realized he takes care of the country, I can take care of the house. Besides he sucks at taking care of the dogs and the house.

We all go through it and have our moments. Take a deep breath.

One day at a time. This too shall pass. ((Hugs))


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I just don't know. I'm so so very exhausted that at work I can't even bare it, home I don't even want to go to.


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image.jpgimage.jpgimage.jpgimage.jpgHi Raechel, I'm so sorry you're going through sad times and feeling overwhelmed. I understand how you feel, as we've had many negative things happen to us since we moved in Dec. it sometimes feels like everytime you try to get ahead or you fall down, it's so hard to comeback, or get back up. We are stronger than we think we are though, and I always believe things happen for a reason, or if we're down then the only way to go is back up. Tomorrow is always a new day, and all we can do is go on, be strong, keep our families, and friends close, and lean on them when needed, and keep on smiling. It's good to cry also, and get it all out, rather than keep it pent up, and we are human, so we can't always be strong. Just know things always will get better, and we are all here for you. Sending love, hugs, and prayers, and positive thoughts your way.



POST WRITTEN BY: MARC CHERNOFF


7 Positive Things You Should Say Today






Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars,
and see yourself running with them.
―Marcus Aurelius


Your life story is an expression of who you are; the words you choose to use shape this story. Your words create the essence of your inner culture and the core of your identity and destiny.


How have you written your story so far? Have you put your words to positive use? If I eavesdropped on your self-talk or your conversations with others, would I hear statements that create happiness, or statements that refute it?


Your ability to write a happy life story hinges on your language. It is your inner and outer verbal expression that makes your joy possible and that infuses your life with purpose, meaning and vitality.


So today I challenge you to say…


1. “I have a choice.”
It is not your talents or abilities, but your choices that ultimately decide your fate.


You ARE your choices.


Until you can look at yourself in the mirror and honestly say, “I have a choice. I am here now because of the choices I’ve made in the past,” you will never be able to say, “I choose differently.”


2. “Let’s get started!”
You can’t build anything wonderful with ideas of what you are going to do someday. If you want something, you have to make a little noise, declare it and then get started.


A goal is far more than a mental exercise. In fact, without the intent of action a goal is nothing more than a lie. Make your decisions real and present in your life; give them the time and attention they deserve.


In the end it doesn’t matter what you’re thinking, it matters what you’re doing. Whatever you want to accomplish, it’s time to get started. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.


3. “I have what it takes.”
The worst enemy of today is your self-doubt. The moment you doubt whether you can do something is the moment it becomes impossible for you.


You have to believe in yourself. You have to trust yourself. You might be nervous, but don’t you ever let any source of negativity in the world convince you that you don’t have what it takes.


Give yourself a pep talk if you need one. State some facts, some evidence of your greatness. Recall your past victories. Speak them out loud – “I aced that test.” “I earned that big raise.” “I ran that 5K without stopping.” “My best friend loved my wedding speech.” And so on and so forth… Give a positive voice to your past victories and you will find the strength to repeat history.


4. “Hello, how can I help you?”


In life, you get what you put in.


Generally speaking, the unhappiest people you will ever meet will be those who are utterly self-absorbed; the happiest people you will ever meet will be those who lose themselves in the joy and challenge of helping others.


Happiness is always attained by giving it away without expectation. Those who help others are eventually helped. You have two hands, one to help yourself and the other to help those around you. If you can lie down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone’s day just a little brighter, you have something to smile about. Read 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.


5. “Look how far I’ve come.”
The way you move a mountain is by moving one stone at a time. Every stone you move, no matter how small, is progress.


Sometimes it may be hard to see your progress. Sometimes it will be frustrating when the results you seek don’t appear as quickly as you had hoped. Still, you are advancing. You may be moving along slowly, but you are still moving a mountain.


Achievement, after all, is an enduring process, not a single event. To achieve any worthwhile goal you must cover a lot of ground. You need to learn what works by trial and error. You must explore possibilities, many of which will only show you what doesn’t work. Just keep in mind that the mistakes and setbacks are a vital part of the process.


Take a break every now and then and pat yourself on the back. Applaud yourself for doing what needs to be done. And be careful not to spend so much time looking at how far you still have to go, that you forget to appreciate how far you’ve already come.


6. “I have more than enough to be happy.”
The happiest of people aren’t the luckiest, and they usually don’t have the best of everything either. They simply make the most of everything they do have. The reason so many people are unhappy is because they tend to look at what’s missing in their life, instead of what’s present.


Take a stand and flip the switch. Stop wishing you had more. Stop wishing you were somewhere else. Stop wishing you looked like someone else. Love your quirks enough to let them shine. Appreciate your body and use it to it’s full potential. Appreciate the things you have that so many others dream about. Scream it out loud if you must: “I am lucky to be alive! I am happy to be me right now! I have way more than I need and so much to be grateful for! My life isn’t perfect, it’s just pretty darn good!” Read The Happiness Project.


7. “ … ”
That blank space denoted by “ … ” is no mistake. That space represents silence.


Silence is soothing. Silence is peace. Silence is divine.


The more silent you are, the more you can hear yourself think.


Have you ever heard the silence just before the sun peaks over the horizon? Or the hush of a country road at midnight? Or the peaceful calm just after a thunderstorm ends? Or perhaps you know the silence in the back of your city library, or the eager pause of an auditorium full of people when the lights dim for the main event, or, best of all, the moment just after the front door shuts and you suddenly have the whole house to yourself?


Each silent moment is different, yet all are beautiful if you listen carefully. Leave enough space in your day to enjoy the space between the commotions. Say nothing, think quietly, just be and breathe.






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i've been busy so i didn't read this whole thread but i just wanted you to know that i was really overwhelmed with Lola as a puppy and I cried, a couple times. Your constant attention on your puppy now will ensure that he will be the perfect adult dog if you spend the extra (frustrating) time early on
 
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To everyone here. Thank you for helping and listening. I have been feeling a little better and my mind and heart are getting better.


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To everyone here. Thank you for helping and listening. I have been feeling a little better and my mind and heart are getting better.


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one day at a time.... try to focus on one thing to lessen the stress . looking at all that bother you at once is over whelming and crippling, pick one and try to fix it best you can and then move on.
 

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