Have you tried something called the Sleep Number Bed? I hear ads about this bed on my radio station all the time and it just sounds really comfy. You can adjust the bed's firmness for your side and Joe can adjust his side as well. Then there's another mattress called the REM mattress. Again, something that is highly recommended here. I have not ever tried either of these mattresses myself but am curious about them. Something to look into perhaps, Kelly.