Oh girl. I feel for you. My boyfriend helped me through the "crying it out" phase with my daughter. He sat with me while I cried in the living room (whilst my daughter cried in her crib). It was awful....sadly, probably more awful for me! LOL My second daughter was a big fan of the light/soft music type toys that you can hang over the crib. Sometimes I had to restart them a few times but eventually she would drift off to sleep.
It seems like just yesterday but my "baby" is 4 1/2 years now!