bluesteelapd
New member
I've been struggling with this since this past summer. I've known this friend for over 20 years. We dated when I was much younger (I was 17, she was 24) and we've always had a little spark between us. Through the years we've helped each other through good and bad times, and frankly as I look back, it's mainly been me helping her. Being a shoulder to cry on, supporting her as she broke up 15 times with her crazy ex "angel dust" girlfriend. We hadn't seen each other in ... atleast 10 years. She lives on the west coast, me on the east. She went to the London Olympics and got bit by the travel bug and wanted to spend a long weekend with me and my partner over the summer. I tried to tell her it wasn't a good time but she didn't want to listen to any of that. I baby sat two boxers for a week and in leu of payment they gave me two primo seats to a Phillies vs the Braves game. These tickets were $65 x 2. I had to pay for parking, around $15. Melanie's flight was late, or atleast that's what she originally told us, and that made us 2 hours late for the game. By the time we got there, it was the bottom of the 7th inning. We didn't blame anyone, hell if her flight was late there wasn't anything she could do about it. Well, come to find out, SHE was late to the airport and thought with 5 mins before the plane taxied down the runway they'd let her board. I didn't find this out until I was driving her back to the airport, 2 hours before her flight, mind you, so she could make it to an Anti Circus protest in LA.
The entire time she was here she never paid for anything. Only offered $5 for gas! I went back and forth from South Jersey to Philly 4 days in a row! That's $5 in tolls per day as well as the gas. She bought 2 meals. I paid for everything else or she ate from the food we had in the fridge. I told her we'd go Vegetarian and won't cook any meat while she was here, to honor her preferences. She had me driving around Philly, on an almost empty tank, trying to find the best deal on a stupid coffee mug!
By the time I dropped her off at the airport I was so ready for her to leave. I wound up telling her she needed to pay for the primo tickets we got since it was her fault she was late to the airport which caused us to sit in 2 hours of traffic to get to the game. She has refused to pay me. I finally told her, I'm done. This is it. I'm no longer your friend. I'm still upset about this and can't seem to find a way to get over it. There are subtle reminders of her that pop up here and there and it just throws me back to all this DRAMA.
P.S. Please allow me to say one more thing. This has NOTHING to do with the money. It has everything to do with her coming out here, not offering to pay for anything, and basically using both of us for an almost "Free" 4 day weekend. It always boils down to the principle. I am a full time college student with no job. I'm blessed to have a partner that makes enough money for me to pursue my dreams and goals. Paying for my friends way, who is an almost middle aged adult, is ridiculous to say the least. She didn't even want me to leave a tip at the casino buffet - she said, oh no, you don't tip them! I was blown away. I guess I didn't know this person that well after all.
Any suggestions on how to put closure on this? I can't and won't go back on my demand for her to pay for those tickets. I even prorated the amount per inning! Neither of us will budge. I guess it wasn't that solid of a friendship after all.
The entire time she was here she never paid for anything. Only offered $5 for gas! I went back and forth from South Jersey to Philly 4 days in a row! That's $5 in tolls per day as well as the gas. She bought 2 meals. I paid for everything else or she ate from the food we had in the fridge. I told her we'd go Vegetarian and won't cook any meat while she was here, to honor her preferences. She had me driving around Philly, on an almost empty tank, trying to find the best deal on a stupid coffee mug!
By the time I dropped her off at the airport I was so ready for her to leave. I wound up telling her she needed to pay for the primo tickets we got since it was her fault she was late to the airport which caused us to sit in 2 hours of traffic to get to the game. She has refused to pay me. I finally told her, I'm done. This is it. I'm no longer your friend. I'm still upset about this and can't seem to find a way to get over it. There are subtle reminders of her that pop up here and there and it just throws me back to all this DRAMA.
P.S. Please allow me to say one more thing. This has NOTHING to do with the money. It has everything to do with her coming out here, not offering to pay for anything, and basically using both of us for an almost "Free" 4 day weekend. It always boils down to the principle. I am a full time college student with no job. I'm blessed to have a partner that makes enough money for me to pursue my dreams and goals. Paying for my friends way, who is an almost middle aged adult, is ridiculous to say the least. She didn't even want me to leave a tip at the casino buffet - she said, oh no, you don't tip them! I was blown away. I guess I didn't know this person that well after all.
Any suggestions on how to put closure on this? I can't and won't go back on my demand for her to pay for those tickets. I even prorated the amount per inning! Neither of us will budge. I guess it wasn't that solid of a friendship after all.
Last edited: