A 9 week old puppy that has just separated from its litter mates and mum.
You need to be patient about how long she takes to feel comfortable in her new home.
We got ours at 45 days and it took about a week for her to settle in; but we have an older male boxer in the house.
If you are crate training, it is better to start by having the crate in your room or just outside.
This way she can sense human presence and calm down. Put an old shirt/jeans of yours in the crate with her bedding.
We did not crate train, but she was in a various sizes of cardboard cartons till 4 months of age. After which she usurped our balcony chairs.
Following you is natural. She has been in the company of mum and litter mates. They were a pack.
Now she is in a new pack and is naturally taking to you as a pack leader. This is encouraging.
Give her time and she will gain independence. In a few weeks time I would not be surprised if we hear complaints about her naughtiness.
Ours was an angel for the first 2 days before she silently chewed up my wife's shoe.
Chewing did not stop until 6 months of age. Yes she has damaged furniture (wooden knobs, door stoppers, shoes, eyeglasses, etc)
Eating habits vary from pup to pup. It is OK to sit by her bowl for the first few days; then stand and encourage her.
Never make the mistake of hand feeding; it can make them demanding and fussy.
Pups at this age need 4 - 5 feeds a day. They will usually pee/poop right after a meal.
Toilet training can start right away. Newspaper method or pee pad or outside; whatever works for you.
Ours was trained to use one of the bathrooms (we have a tiled bathroom that can be hosed down).
Slowly we trained her to use the terrace in our apartment. Gently wipe her behind every time she pees/poops.
Take extra care to ensure she does not step into poop/pee. If she does clean immediately.
EBs need patience, firmness and consistency from owners. The earlier you start showing alpha behavior the better.
The 3rd month is fear imprint stage in a pup. So you need to be clear about praising good behavior and saying NO.
Don't send confusing signals; be consistent.
Cheers and good luck,