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    Default Should I say something to my neighbor about how he corrects his bully?

    So I'm normally outspoken as heck, but this situation has got me a little tongue tied. The first time it happened I was more shocked than anything and then last night I was just sad and came home with tears in my eyes. My neighbor hits his dog pretty hard to correct him sometimes and I absolutely hate it.

    One of my neighbors that moved in a maybe 3 months back has a bulldog that's about the same age and size as Ruckus. He is always a super sweet dog. He has always played nice with Ruckus and Regina and always backs his butt up to me for some scratches. We see this guy (and sometimes his girlfriend) and his dog multiple times per week, but I've only seen the correction/smacking twice. My boyfriend says he has never seen it.

    One night I was walking Regina before bed and we ran into the guy and his bully. His dog and Regina were playing and at one point he made what I thought was a play growl, but I pulled Regina back to let them calm down. My neighbor smacked his dog on the rump hard, you could hear it, then picked him up by his harness and neck skin and yelled no in his face. The dog looked so helpless when he was back on the ground....

    Last night I was taking Ruckus for a solo walk and I ran into this guy and his bully again. Ruckus loves his bully so we walked around the block together so the boys could do their business and socialize. When we were passing the entrance to my neighbor's apartment Ruckus pulled to go inside -- he has other doggy friends who live there and he liked going inside. I said "no Ruckus let's go home, come for treats." I feel like it was partially my fault because I said the T word so my neighbor's dog started pulling toward me and made a begging sort of growl. I wasn't worried and would have made both him and Ruckus sit calmly for treats.... But my neighbor picks him up again and hit him so hard on his back it was such a loud smack and then literally dropped him inside the front door....he said sorry that his dog growled and I said it wasn't a problem and that I didn't even realize he was growling...I just thought he wanted a treat....Ruckus looked worried because his bully friend was cowering inside. I just wanted to hug that poor dog...

    I was just so shocked because my neighbor is so nice and his dog looks so well cared for and I just don't know to approach the subject....he sort of explained it to me that he wants kids one days and doesn't want his dog to growl and I get that...but there are other ways...

    Would you try to say something? Anyone else have a similar situation? How did you approach it?

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    Oh hell no. I sure would have said something. What a jerk, and poor baby. Maybe just offer a better suggestion, like a firm NO, bc hitting a dog is what causes them to have emotional problems. That's so sad.

    Or, let me know, I'll book a flight and you & I can devise a plan to kidnap him, and take him from that douche. Yep, I like that plan better.

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    I would definitely say something, maybe that's the way he grew up smacking dogs and being mean to them but like Jessica said we know that hitting dogs and just being cruel like that just causes problems not to mention the pain the other dog feels. It's so sad how you said Ruckus was just looking at his friend sulking like that.

    I would say to him, you know there are other ways to get your dog to not growl and if he seems receptive then I'd tell him how positive reinforcement helps a lot and explain it to him. If he isn't so cool about it I would just avoid him or maybe have your boyfriend say something to him. That sucks and I know how you feel. I've never witnessed anyone be mean to a bulldog but I've seen people smack their kids around and have spoken up about it to them.

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    . Just can't imagine hitting any dog --- i would do as Jessica suggested and give him alternative training options
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    Oh gosh. I saw my neighbor grab and flip his GSD down onto the cement. I know he's doing it as a training tool (submission), but it did seem harsh. I didn't say anything, so I understand your hesitation. It's such a sensitive thing...

    I like the idea of offering alternative training tools. That doesn't seem so accusatory. Of course, I also like Jessica's idea...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cali Doll View Post
    Oh gosh. I saw my neighbor grab and flip his GSD down onto the cement. I know he's doing it as a training tool (submission), but it did seem harsh. I didn't say anything, so I understand your hesitation. It's such a sensitive thing...

    I like the idea of offering alternative training tools. That doesn't seem so accusatory. Of course, I also like Jessica's idea...

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    Quote Originally Posted by TyTysmom View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cali Doll View Post
    I'm in!
    We can be the bully relocation unit!!!

    I'm going to try to talk to him about it. I hope he listens. I wonder if he's had some behavior issues in the past and he thinks this works because it sort of stuns the dog some stops for the moment.

    Ugh. Maybe I'll smuggle him to Florida with me.

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    I would have to say something too. They don't understand that you loose all respect from them when you beat them. He needs to be told about other training methods, even though he may not listen. Poor bully.
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    Quote Originally Posted by g8erjackie View Post
    So I'm normally outspoken as heck, but this situation has got me a little tongue tied. The first time it happened I was more shocked than anything and then last night I was just sad and came home with tears in my eyes. My neighbor hits his dog pretty hard to correct him sometimes and I absolutely hate it.

    One of my neighbors that moved in a maybe 3 months back has a bulldog that's about the same age and size as Ruckus. He is always a super sweet dog. He has always played nice with Ruckus and Regina and always backs his butt up to me for some scratches. We see this guy (and sometimes his girlfriend) and his dog multiple times per week, but I've only seen the correction/smacking twice. My boyfriend says he has never seen it.

    One night I was walking Regina before bed and we ran into the guy and his bully. His dog and Regina were playing and at one point he made what I thought was a play growl, but I pulled Regina back to let them calm down. My neighbor smacked his dog on the rump hard, you could hear it, then picked him up by his harness and neck skin and yelled no in his face. The dog looked so helpless when he was back on the ground....

    Last night I was taking Ruckus for a solo walk and I ran into this guy and his bully again. Ruckus loves his bully so we walked around the block together so the boys could do their business and socialize. When we were passing the entrance to my neighbor's apartment Ruckus pulled to go inside -- he has other doggy friends who live there and he liked going inside. I said "no Ruckus let's go home, come for treats." I feel like it was partially my fault because I said the T word so my neighbor's dog started pulling toward me and made a begging sort of growl. I wasn't worried and would have made both him and Ruckus sit calmly for treats.... But my neighbor picks him up again and hit him so hard on his back it was such a loud smack and then literally dropped him inside the front door....he said sorry that his dog growled and I said it wasn't a problem and that I didn't even realize he was growling...I just thought he wanted a treat....Ruckus looked worried because his bully friend was cowering inside. I just wanted to hug that poor dog...

    I was just so shocked because my neighbor is so nice and his dog looks so well cared for and I just don't know to approach the subject....he sort of explained it to me that he wants kids one days and doesn't want his dog to growl and I get that...but there are other ways...

    Would you try to say something? Anyone else have a similar situation? How did you approach it?
    ok, hitting a dog is one of my soft spot. I am flying to DC so I can meet and talk to this guy. Let me know when you are available.
    Hug your bully today

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    Quote Originally Posted by g8erjackie View Post
    ....I was just so shocked because my neighbor is so nice and his dog looks so well cared for and I just don't know to approach the subject....he sort of explained it to me that he wants kids one days and doesn't want his dog to growl and I get that...but there are other ways...
    Tricky situation, but try to talk to him and say you are concerned about the way he corrects his dog. Coming down that hard on a dog seems to be a bad way of preparing for kids...


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    Ugh...I'm hoping if you find a right moment and can say look, do you know
    bulldogs are very sensitive and with them, hitting does not work well...what
    does is positive reinforcement. Your dog does not come off in any way, out
    of line so maybe YOU are reading his play growls & bully ways as aggression
    and YOU are wrong, not him. Hopefully, he will be receptive, stop hitting and
    see for himself. Your description of what you witnessed makes me sick & sad.


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