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    Default I really don't know how to deal with this..could someone please give me some advice

    I am a 57 year old man and I spend every waking minute with my Bully. His name is Buddy I've had him since he was 3 months old. He turns 8 in September. I'm worried about myself when that day comes as I don't know what I will do when it happens. This is not normal behavior for me as I'm usually very strong in every other area of my life except when it comes to Buddy. My question is to all you folks. Should I think about getting another bulldog puppy now because I heard that it makes the transition much easier when you have another dog to care for when the other dog passes. Is it true that the elder bulliy could actually live longer if there's a younger dog around? Buddy doesn't mind other dogs, he doesn't really go out of his way to make friends with other dogs. Whenever there's another dog visiting he's always a gentleman around the other dog. I'm afraid that if I do get another puppy he will resent me for bringing another dog into our lives and will not be happy. But then again I believe if you have the know how and the patience you can make anything work. I realize there isn't any right answer to this because every case is different. I just would like to hear your experiences and stories because I am afraid that I won't be able to handle it when Buddy goes. I know this might sound stupid, but I'm very worried about not having him in my life anymore. Thank You.

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    Default Re: I really don't know how to deal with this..could someone please give me some advice

    It's a tough call. If you have the means and ability to dedicate the time required to tend to the needs of both the new pup and Buddies needs go for it. Just remember to be patient and give love to both equally. If not then I would hold off. As far as an older pup living longer with the addition of a young pup I cannot say but in my experience it could be possible as my boxer was 13 when he passed last year and had younger pup to play with all day.

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    Default Re: I really don't know how to deal with this..could someone please give me some advice

    Does buddy have the energy to put up with a puppy who will want to play with him constantly? If he does, than thats great. You can also adopt a younger bulldog from a rescue. It would be out of the puppy stage and possibly less stressful for Buddy. Good luck with whatever you decide. Buddy is a lucky dog to have such a faithful and thoughtful dad.

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    Default Re: I really don't know how to deal with this..could someone please give me some advice

    Your story is heartbreaking to me on so many levels… I have lost 3 bullies in one year. First of all I have to say that bullies are a very different type of dog, they are very attuned to their owners… and their owners needs. It's hard to put into words the relationship that we have w/these dogs… and that's what makes it so difficult when we have to say good-bye. I'm a huge believer in living in the moment, and it makes me sad that you are worrying about the inevitable… every single day has it's own gifts. But w/that being said… we do tend to think about the future.

    No matter what you decide to do you will NEVER be able to replace your Buddy. When our Bella died we had her puppy Winston w/us at that time… but he wasn't Bella. He was a completely different dog, and your new puppy will be different too. I believe that it is a distraction from the numbing sadness, but in a good way… because now you get to start over once again. You are a lot stronger than you think, so many people think they will never get over a death of a beloved baby… but they do.

    If I were you I would take time to think about it… a puppy is always a wonderful addition to the family. Buddy may be jealous, but he may enjoy the excitement of having a new friend to play with. But you can't replace your Buddy...

    I have to say that the family here on EBN have been w/me every step of the way in my losses this last year… I do NOT know what I would have done w/out them helping me thru my grief & sadness. You will always have the love & support of other bully members on this site to help you when you need it!!!

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    Default Re: I really don't know how to deal with this..could someone please give me some advice

    I just lost one of my bulldogs in December and I will admit that having Diesel & Molly kept me in the here and now even though I was so sad and lost at losing Madison ... no matter what you will have to go through the grieving process but focus on the time you have together now and don't look so much into the future at when you won't be together ... I say spend every single day loving him the way he loves you, don't look ahead and focus on the losing part ... I've heard people say its "missing the forest for the tree" or something like that.

    Puppies are great, rescuing is even greater but giving all you have to Buddy each day will keep you both happy and content ... though I'm one of those people that believe in having multiple bulldogs (one bulldog is never enough) I would have a whole herd if I could but my best advise is this ... look into your heart and go with what you feel, if you feel it's in Buddy's best interest to get him a friend then go for it but if it's just to help ease the pain of losing Buddy down the road, I can honestly say it doesn't change that pain of losing a beloved family member.
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    Default Re: I really don't know how to deal with this..could someone please give me some advice

    I can totally relate to your story, it makes me cry I've been thinking a lot about it and after finding a special text called "A dogs last wish" I decided when the time comes I'll find an unwanted bulldog and give it all the love it should have gotten from the start.

    I have 3 bulldogs, 1 pug and 3 x-breeds so it's pretty busy but I cannot imagine my life without a bulldog. The 3 x-breeds ended up with us by chance, two of them were on death row in a shelter and the third one was taken from a bad home. One of the Bulldogs, Joey, is also a rescue and she's so special Since I have so many dogs already I wouldn't get a puppy, but your situation is different. I sometimes feel bad when the younger dogs annoy Joey, she's almost 7 years old, but I can also see that she enjoys playing with them and she acts very much like their mother, she cleans them and corrects them when they're naughty.

    I'd ultimately do what would be best for Buddy

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    Default Re: I really don't know how to deal with this..could someone please give me some advice

    @Petra, this is beautiful...brought tears to my eyes. All 3 of our bully puppies, while not shelter dogs, have been "rescued" from people who thought they wanted a bulldog, but within several months circumstances changed. Each of our bullies have been different and each has given us many years of joy.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sharon Mitchel View Post
    @Petra, this is beautiful...brought tears to my eyes. All 3 of our bully puppies, while not shelter dogs, have been "rescued" from people who thought they wanted a bulldog, but within several months circumstances changed. Each of our bullies have been different and each has given us many years of joy.
    Rescue dogs is the best breed If it wasn't for you they would have probably ended up in a shelter in the end, so you sure did rescue them
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    Default Re: I really don't know how to deal with this..could someone please give me some advice

    Some wonderful words of love and wisdom from others here. I love this community and the support we offer each other. I'd be lost without it.

    Good luck with your decision, I'm sure you will make the right one for your whole family xx


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    This thread has me in tears..... I can honestly say, when I lost my boy, Nitschke, if it were not for Banks in the home, I would have been in a worse place than I was, it really helped me having Banks to hug and spend time with Along with all the support from the family here at EBN, having another dog in the home kept me moving and focusing forward, but never, ever will I not have a place in my heart for my sweet Nitschke, he is in my heart and thoughts every single day.

    I think it is good to get another, but based on Buddy determine if you can get an older Bulldog via rescue or would a puppy be best. My girl, Banks, if we were to get another dog.. it would HAVE to be a puppy as she is very dominate and would not accept an adult. Think about his personality while at home, not away from the home...

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    Default Re: I really don't know how to deal with this..could someone please give me some advice

    Thank You sooo much. Your words and advice make me feel better. I will keep up with this forum as I believe you so wholeheartedly. Sincerely Mark Silvia

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    Thank You for taking the time to think about what you would do if you were in my shoes. I have the utmost love and respect for people who care as much as you do. Sincerely Mark Silvia

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