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    Quote Originally Posted by Wrangler View Post
    Can you get him a companion animal? Another dog? Or even cat(my ragdoll will sleep with the dogs on the bed).

    Hey, I've got a Ragdoll too...love them as much as I love bullies!


    ​Please post some pics as will I...going to post some of my Brutus too.


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    Quote Originally Posted by savemejeebus View Post
    I don't usually recommend meds, but there's this homeopathic one that are given to pets that get stressed ... bach's rescue remedy, I believe. But let me know if you're interested and I can check for you before you try it. I know a friend who gives it to her dogs if they're stressed from some sort of trauma, emotional or physical.
    My heart goes out to you...Mother has been w/me (and Hubby before he died in August)
    for 2 and 1/2 years and not one day away from her because she had trouble coping. If I
    could go back and have a 'do over' I'd arrange for a day off here & there and certainly a
    vacation w/Hubby...y'all need AND deserve it.

    I'd also suggest the Rescue Remedy, maybe tight T-shirts, fav foods and more attention
    when he's staring out the door. They could talk soothingly and rub his chest & shoulders
    and try to distract w/his fav toy, maybe a walk (even in his yard). He will survive and so
    will y'all. I have a very tender heart too...I will keep y'all in my prayers...but go!


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    Hi, I know you feel bad, or guilty that Max is missing you, and seems sad, but you also need a vacation with your husband sometimes, and a break. Just like with children it is healthy to leave them sometimes for both you and them. They learn that you will return, and to trust others, and since its your family, you know he's in good hands and he will be loved. It's only 4 days, and it will go by quick, and Max will be fine. Enjoy yourself, and don't worry.
    LEARN A LESSON FROM YOUR DOG, NO MATTER WHAT LIFE BRINGS YOU, KICK SOME GRASS OVER THAT AND MOVE ON.

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    I appreciate everyone's comments & thoughts. I know the problem is me. I need to relax, be positive & know all will be fine. Having said that, I never accomplish it. I call twice a day & text, then count the hours till I can get home to him. I guess I need to work on myself. I just love him so much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lulu belle View Post
    I appreciate everyone's comments & thoughts. I know the problem is me. I need to relax, be positive & know all will be fine. Having said that, I never accomplish it. I call twice a day & text, then count the hours till I can get home to him. I guess I need to work on myself. I just love him so much.
    I am the exact same way, I plan my life around Otis - because I am away at work during the week I hate to be away from him on the weekend so I tend to not plan anything and stay home - same thing when I get home from work - it's all "The Otis Show" - I leave for work somethimes almost in tears. I too, do not know what to do about it, I just love him oh so much, so I feel your pain.
    Otis you'll never know how much I love you I love you more then all the leaves on all the trees

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    OMG! Others really do exist, this site is amazing. Same here, no going out after work, hate if I have an obligation on the weekend. It's all about him since the day he arrived. I don't have children, he is my son.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lulu belle View Post
    OMG! Others really do exist, this site is amazing. Same here, no going out after work, hate if I have an obligation on the weekend. It's all about him since the day he arrived. I don't have children, he is my son.
    Yes, misery loves company ... and we're all here! Another way that some of us monitor our babies when we're out is by installing cameras that we can view via our phones / computer. They're great! Sets your mind at ease.

    A few of us here don't have kids too ... so our bullies are our kids. Heck, even the ones that have skin kids treat their fur-kids like they are skin-kids. We love them all the same.
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    Quote Originally Posted by savemejeebus View Post
    Yes, misery loves company ... and we're all here! Another way that some of us monitor our babies when we're out is by installing cameras that we can view via our phones / computer. They're great! Sets your mind at ease.

    A few of us here don't have kids too ... so our bullies are our kids. Heck, even the ones that have skin kids treat their fur-kids like they are skin-kids. We love them all the same.
    I thought of cameras too. I'm afraid I will watch him obsessively. Maybe I should, maybe it will relax me to see him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MamaAndi View Post
    I know you said he doesn't get along with other dogs....and this might be out of the relm of what you feel like doing but what about a puppy?

    Most adult dogs will cut a puppy some slack because they understand that they are young and fragile. If your bully could bond with another dog maybe that would take some of the dependency off of you?
    Had spoke to my vet about this (2 years ago), a buddy to keep him company while I'm at work. Vet said absolutely not! Max would kill it. Very insecure & frightened (due to deafness), very spoiled (due to mommy & daddy).

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    I wish I could help but if it were me I would have a hard time leaving as well. Thankfully mine are happy to be spoiled while we leave. I would do the rv vacation and bring him with. Tis way you can relax and enjoy the trip knowing he is ok. They also make pet friendly hotels, maybe do vacations around him and where he is allowed.

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    A Lot of good suggestions here. One or two days here and there, Another pooch, take Him with you. When we first left Mimi with my mother in law, she didn't didn't eat for days. After a few trips she learned we Would eventually come home. my wife would talk to her over the phone. She usually liked it best if she could stay at home even if she was alone most of the day. Of course if we were loading up the camper she was climbing through the door so she wouldn't be left behind. Also she didn't do well with other dogs (way too aggressive) but she did readily accept two puppies over her lifetime.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lulu belle View Post
    OMG! Others really do exist, this site is amazing. Same here, no going out after work, hate if I have an obligation on the weekend. It's all about him since the day he arrived. I don't have children, he is my son.
    I am exactly the same!
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