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  • Member Spotlight: Twice

    Hi EBN family!

    Iíve been asked to share a little of my life with you guys. Davidh, you might be sorry you asked me to do this because sometimes I tend to ramble. I guess I should start at the beginning. My name is Bev, single mother to 3 amazing young men.

    Thereís my ďsuper responsible, have to fix everyoneís problems, donít talk to me if youíre stupidĒ son Jeremy (now 25). Jeremy is looking forward to a career in law enforcement. He scored in the top 3% of the state on his last exam!

    There is my sensitive, ďhave to please everyone, king of shortcutsĒ son James (almost 21). Jimmy was on his way to being an MP in the Army but a bacterial infection settled in his lungs with 3 weeks of AIT left. The medicines they were giving him made his stomach bleed and the infection wasnít clearing up so he was medically discharged.

    Then there is my redheaded, high school football star and concert buddy Giuseppe (15). Heís my ďI donít care if you like me or not. Itís not fair Ė you didnít make HIM do itĒ kid. Both Jeremy and Jimmy got engaged last year and both of them are expecting babies. Jeremy and Sally are expecting a boy (either Mason or Landon) and Jimmy and Evelyn are expecting a girl (either Amaryllis or Elizabeth). Their due dates are just 34 days apart from each other.

    I was 19 when I married the man that everyone told me not to. It seems like more you tell me not to do something, the more Iíd determined to do it. 9 years and 1 and a half kids later my caveman of a husband left for work and never came back. We havenít seen or heard from him since. No birthday cards, no Christmas presents, no child support. I think it was the best thing he could have ever done for us. Any man who could so easily walk out on his pregnant wife and child is not the kind of role model I want for my sons. About a year later I met the man of my dreams. Iíll save the details on that for another time but as you know, sometimes dreams become nightmares. Years later, Iím done with him, heís not done with me and Iím pulling my hair out trying to be nice for the sake of our son.

    My kids are proud to tell their friends that their mother has literally broken her back raising them. To date I have had 5 spinal surgeries. I had an infection after the 3rd operation (my fusion) that put me in a wheelchair for about a year, they didnít know if I would ever walk again but I always knew I would. My last operation was in June of 2011 when I had my spinal stimulator implanted. It has completely changed my life.

    I donít remember a time when I didnít have a dog. Iíve had smart dogs like King, my Siberian Husky to incredibly stupid dogs like Guido my sheepdog mix who used to chew electrical cords because he liked the shock he got from it (surprisingly, Guido had to be re-homed). Iíve had ugly dogs like Lady, the wire haired terrier who followed me home from school one day, beautiful dogs like my Rottie Jumbo and dogs who have almost landed me in jail like my Boxer Sheba. (I guess I owe you this story)

    After my husband left my son Jeremy was pretty beat up over it. So one day I answered an ad for a free Boxer hoping it would cheer him up. She looked as though she had spent her whole life tied up outside, you could see every bone in her body, both of her eyes were infected and her ears had so many fly bites that they were bleeding. The ownerís story was that they were moving to California and couldnít take her. I asked if I could bring her home for the weekend to make sure she got along with our other dog Shep our black/golden Lab mix and that she was good with Jeremy. I didnít have to check her with Shep, he got along with everyone. I needed to get her out of there because this girl needed a doctor ASAP! We took her straight to the vet, got her eyes & ears cleaned out and medicine for the infections. Sunday we called them to say we were going to be keeping her. No way was I sending her back to that prison! Thatís when they told me that the dog was free, but if I wanted her papers they were going to cost me $1200.00. Howís that for a scam! I told them that we had no intention on breeding her and my son was already in love with her so they could keep the papers and I hung up. 2 days later the FBI came knocking on my door. The people had called the police to report the dog stolen. Dog napping is a federal offense so my 8 month pregnant self was taken into custody. Thank God I had kept both the ad from the pet store and the receipt from the vet. It only took a couple of hours to prove my story, the old owners were arrested and we were the new family of Sheba, the 1 and a half year old Boxer with an enormous under bite.

    I lost my Sheba to breast cancer and the day I said goodbye to her I swore I would never, EVER love another animal again. That is until 3 days later when I was driving to work and saw a pickup truck pull over on the side of the highway and literally THREW my Roxy onto the shoulder and drove away. I chased that poor thing for 2 hours, trying to keep her out of traffic, trying to get her safe.

    Eventually, this gorgeous little bruised, beaten 9 month old puppy who smelled like Staten Island was in my car on the way to my house. It took 3 baths just to get enough smell off of her to close the window. Roxy was so terrified of people, so starved and abused that she lived in our linen closet for 2 weeks. Nothing we did would get her out so we fed her in there, cleaned up after her in there and every night of those 2 weeks my boys and I sat in that bathroom talking to each other, doing homework, playing games and pretending Roxy wasnít there. Sometimes I think she only came out to get away from the crazy people on the floor! She has been my savior from the teenage testosterone for almost 13 years now.

    Enter Lady Abigail and EBN. She was supposed to be a birthday present for the redhead. As most of you know, I bought her from a friend of a friend who bought her for her daughter for Christmas but the kid turned out to be allergic. Thatís the story I was given anyway. When I saw that little, 11 week old sweetie head in the picture I was instantly in love. During the week of negotiations (payment, drop off time and date etc) I spent my days and nights reading everything that I could about English Bulldogs. Thatís how I found all of you. I lurked here for not only the week I was waiting on Abby, but almost the first whole week that she was here too. I welcomed Abby into our family and you all welcomed us into yours.

    When they put Abby in my arms she was 8 pounds of skin and bones. She was throwing up constantly and had bloody diarrhea. The next morning I took her to the vet, she got antibiotics and we were told to bring her back in a week. The vomiting continued and 3 weeks later she was diagnosed with Juvenile Renal Dysplasia (kidney failure). Her numbers were so out of control and she was so sick we were told that she would probably only be with us for a couple more weeks, one of the vet techs actually said the words ďtake her home and say goodbyeĒ. After her first ultrasound they said if we were lucky, we might have a year. Nobody thought she would see her first birthday. Through medications, vitamins, herbal supplements, a completely homemade diet and all natural treats most of her numbers are a 10th of a point within normal range. Her doctors now say think we may live to a nice old ďmiddleĒ age.

    She was also recently diagnosed with Congenital Luxating Elbows (the connective tissue in her arms never formed properly). They have surgery to correct it, but Abby canít have it. I canít take her to the dog park. I canít get her spayed. I canít get her vaccinated. I wonít even get an x-ray to see if her hips are OK because I donít want to radiate her body ďjust to seeĒ. What we can do is love her, spoil her and treat her like the little princess that she thinks she already is.

    I now spend my nights digging through kidney websites, reading diet books, researching which vitamins will help and which ones will not. Canine therapies, human therapies, traditional therapies, holistic therapies. You name it, Iíve read it or will try it. My newest obsession is with Chinese medicine and healing touches. Iíll keep you posted.

    If raising my boys alone has taught me anything it has taught me that I can do anything! I have never let a NO get in my way. If it needs to be done then I will find a way to get it done. Failure is not an option and I will not fail Abby. I know that her time with us will be short. I know that we will never see her face old and gray. And I know that no matter how well we treat her, how stable we keep those kidney values - a simple staph infection or cold virus could kill her. But I also know that whatever time God gives us with her will be the best time that I can possibly give her. I just hope that when the time comes for her to close her eyes forever she will do it knowing that she was loved.

    Thanks for listening! I warned you I could ramble.

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    Comments 44 Comments
    1. goobers mom's Avatar
      goobers mom -
      Awesome story Thanks for sharing,and it sounds like If a bully could live on love alone ABBY will live a very long time
    1. RescueMe's Avatar
      RescueMe -
      oh this is a wonderful story..
    1. JAKEISGREAT's Avatar
      Bev! What an awe inspiring story. Full of heartache...trumped by love. It made me smile and appreciate where the tenacity and your fighting spirit come fom. You are the reason more women should be running countries.I always knew Abby was the luckiest Bully around...but now I know why. And all those "cant's" you ticked off pertaining to Miss Abby...really the only thing that matters is this "I Can Love"...
    1. cali~jenn's Avatar
      cali~jenn -
      Ok got my tears going on this one, shocker I know. Wow. LOVE this one and thank you for sharing it with us.
    1. gunnyboy's Avatar
      gunnyboy -
      Great story! your a tough lady and my hat is off to you! what a job with your boys and dogs, keep up the good work.
    1. Twice's Avatar
      Twice -
      @Davidh I thought you were going to shorten that? lol And this months article... "The ramblings of a crazy lady - brought to you by the letters IN and SANE"

      Thank you everybody. I loved reading about all of you, I was happy to tell you about us.
    1. KMARINO's Avatar
      KMARINO -
      Thank you for sharing, once again I just love reading these stories, we already have a special bond and I feel it just brings us all even closer to get to know members better like this.
    1. Davidh's Avatar
      Davidh -
      @Twice It was so good, I wasn't changing a thing.
    1. Dalia55's Avatar
      Dalia55 -
      great story, your dogs and boys sure are lucky
    1. BabyDuke's Avatar
      BabyDuke -
      well I am sobbing sobbing sobbing here at the computer. I too raised my boys on my own , I recently remarried a few years ago.. Duke is my husband and I 's child we never had together. thank you so much for sharing your story.. VERY inspirational!
      I can't tell you how happy I am that we found this forum.. @JAKEISGREAT and @LucysMum belonged to another forum two years ago and we didn't like the people there. We found this one and wow we have met so many amazing people like yourself!! You go girl.. RAMBLE on its all worth listening too!!! and Abby well we all know how I feel about that gorgeous little angel!!
    1. bullmama's Avatar
      bullmama -
      Crying over here, what a touching story.... I think I love Abby even more now. Oh, and you too!
    1. Biogirl71's Avatar
      Biogirl71 -
      What a wonderful story! You and your boys have done so much good in saving helpless puppies by never giving up on them and giving them the loving home and life they deserve.
    1. ChanelnBrutus's Avatar
      ChanelnBrutus -
      You are an amazing strong women! Loved reading the story and so glad I was able to meet you! Glad Abby found her way into your life b/c you are the BEST BULLY MAMA she could ever have
    1. LariP's Avatar
      LariP -
    1. acarabias's Avatar
      acarabias -
      Bev this is beautiful and inspiring! You are awesome! Abby is a miracle, but only because she has you! All I know is that I think about you when I feel overwhelmed with my pups but now Knowing the story with your skin kids you have inspired me with my own children too! It has been a blessing to have you and Abby on ebn.. And congrats on the grandbabies.. When are they due?
    1. cali baker's Avatar
      cali baker -
      I truly loved reading your biography, Bev. You're story is very inspiring. The love you have for your kids, human and canine, is incredible!
    1. kazzy220's Avatar
      kazzy220 -
      Wow .. I think I say wow a lot .... but really in this case it is WOW!!!

      As many have said ......... that is an incredible and inspiring story! It doesn't matter how long the vets say Abby has, the important thing is that in her life she has already received more love and devotion from you than many bulldogs will ever receive in a life time!! You are a fighter ... and that's why Abby is a fighter too. Daughters take after their Mums you know!!!
    1. RiiSi's Avatar
      RiiSi -
      Incredibly touching story, I'm a bit of a sobber too....thank you.
    1. Twice's Avatar
      Twice -
      Quote Originally Posted by acarabias View Post
      Bev this is beautiful and inspiring! You are awesome! Abby is a miracle, but only because she has you! All I know is that I think about you when I feel overwhelmed with my pups but now Knowing the story with your skin kids you have inspired me with my own children too! It has been a blessing to have you and Abby on ebn.. And congrats on the grandbabies.. When are they due?
      Adrianna (Jimmy and Evelyn) is due August 16th and Landon (Jeremy and Sally) is due September 19th.

      They have finally settled on names! There's no going back now, I've already had baby stuff monogrammed
    1. LynnA's Avatar
      LynnA -
      Thank you for sharing - my hat's off to you and all you've done.